I recently spoke to someone having trouble accepting their Bisexuality - feeling the sting of bi-phobia from inside the community and not really feeling bi ‘enough’.
I feel that.
Personally, I am pansexual and NB/gender fluid/gender apathetic - but I am mostly seen as straight and as a woman - I know this inner dialogue well.
It can be exhausting to feel invalid in your identity - questioning yourself every time you realize you fancy someone, start a new relationship, have a sex dream…
Maybe even more often than that
Unpacking things like this is a big part of the sessions I do - and though it's always better to have these conversations one to one - I’ll be delving into where a lot of the mind fucks of being bi/pan/queer come from in the next podcast episode.
I’ll be offering some explanation and practical tips to all the bi/pan/queer babes struggling with this - but for now, I offer one piece of advice.
Ensure you are receiving a generous amount of bi/pan/queer content in your everyday life.
It is society that gives us our shame and feelings of inadequacy about our sexuality - when we surround ourselves with reassuring, encouraging voices, we are reminded that the way we are is okay, nothing has gone wrong - and no one has to choose a side.
So, here is some affirming bisexual and pansexual content:
vvvv CW - the start of this episode involves very explicit language vvvv